Love is not an adjective to describe how you feel, love is a verb for how you behave
At the root of every marital problem is a spiritual problem
Verbal affirmation can go a long way. Find 2-3 nice things about your husband every day. Tell him. Tell your kids.
Read the 5 Love Languages and determine each others love language so that you can show them love effectively.
Your expectations may be different from your spouses. Ask them (in all areas) to verbalize their expectations for you (what is "Par" vs. "Nice to Have" vs. "Over the Top"). Try to always do Par and to sometimes achieve the others.
Don't lose the spontaneity in your relationship after you're married. If you've lost it, work to get it back. Also, make sure you continue to "date" your spouse.
Make sure you prioritize your relationship over what others may see as a perfect or super-organized life.
Lastly, I really realized the critical importance of an "Accountability" group in helping to keep a marriage healthy, holy and happy. Try to get plugged into a church and find a group of friends for you and your spouse who you can both be vulnerable with and who will never let you stray/will hold you accountable to being the spouse that God wants you to be.
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